A newlywed couple from Chicago created invoices calling out those who bailed after eight guests failed to show up to their wedding in Jamaica earlier this month without altering the RSVP in order to convey a message about wedding decorum.
After an image of the invoice went online, Doug and Dedra Simmons, who married on Aug. 18, generated debate on social media.
According to the invoice, “this charge is being sent to you since you confirmed seat(s) at the wedding reception at the Final Headcount.” “The cost of your individual seats is shown above. This amount is what you owe us for paying for your seat(s) in advance because you didn’t call or give us appropriate notice that you wouldn’t be attending. You have the option of paying with Zelle or PayPal. Please contact us and let us know which method of payment works best for you. Thank you so much!”
After the couple returned to the United States and still hadn’t heard from the guests who didn’t show up, the invoice was uploaded on social media on Aug. 23 “as a joke” to send a message about wedding decorum, but it wasn’t delivered to any attendees.
Simmons posted on Facebook, “Don’t be insulted when I send you this #invoice.” “It’ll resemble this in appearance. I’ll send it to you by email and certified mail…just in case you don’t get it via email #PettyPost.”
The post has been shared hundreds of times on Facebook and has also gone viral on other sites.
The couple told TMRW that they checked in with all 109 expected guests several times in the weeks leading up to the wedding to ensure that everyone was still intending to attend.
“From November through August, we inquired four times if they would be present, and each time they replied yes. We would have understood if they were unable to attend at any moment, but no call, no show was a bit disappointing,” Doug Simmons said.
The couple had to pay for the meals of the eight guests who failed to show up 30 days before their wedding in Negril, Jamaica.
“We were all on WhatsApp, and none of us received a text or phone call from them informing us that they wouldn’t be able to make it. “There was still no call or text when we got home from Jamaica,” Simmons added. The invoice asks for a payment of $240 for two $120 lunches.
People’s reactions to the invoice were divided on social media. “I have declared my disdain towards wedding culture. Tressie McMillan Cottom of The New York Times commented, “Everything about it.”
I’ve made it clear that I loathe wedding culture. Everything about it is fantastic. I know, it’s a big shock. https://t.co/W6GxVEoV94
Tressie McMillan Cottom (@tressiemcphd) (@tressiemcphd) (@tressiemcphd) (@tressiemcphd) 1st of September, 2021
“Sending an invoice is straight up impolite especially during a pandemic,” one person wrote, criticizing the couple’s decision.
An RSVP isn’t a binding contract…
It’s quite impolite to send an invoice, especially during a pandemic. They may be absent due to illness, and they want payment by a certain date.
Lora G Adams (@hoopsmom09) (@hoopsmom09) (@hoopsmom09) (@hoops 27th of August, 2021.
Others, on the other hand, appeared to support the couple’s decision. “If you RSVP and don’t show, I’ll be pissed,” one social media user said.
When it’s all said and done, we’re spending close to $55,000 on our wedding, so if you RSVP and don’t show up, I’ll be furious.
August 28, 2021 — Htown (@htown)
You have an obligation to turn up unless there is a hospital-worthy emergency. People pay per plate, and they can cut the amount of dinners with sufficient notice, therefore I’m all in.
August 25, 2021 — Lia Marie (@Liamarie life)
Doug Simmons explained that he merely wanted to post the invoice to put visitors who didn’t show up “in a bad mood.”
Simmons told Business Insider that he’d received apologies from guests who hadn’t arrived since the invoice was posted.
“It was just me being petty and having a teachable moment at the same time,” she said. I’ve never had to send anything out since just seeing it on Facebook made them feel guilty,” he explained. “You don’t have to do things for people all of the time, but the fact that you put it out there and they saw it, that’s when they came running and said, ‘Hey, you know, I apologize.’”
He rebuffed guests’ offers to cover the fees, stating, “Hey, it’s OK.” Allow this to serve as a lesson to you.
Please don’t do this to anyone else because we understand that things happen, but it’s simply not OK to do something like that to someone you call a friend or a family member at the end of the day.”
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